The Secret Circle

We met this couple about four years ago. His wife was actually our realtor, but we instantly clicked and built a real connection during that process. We got along so well that they eventually opened up about their involvement in the hotwife lifestyle. (To be honest, it came out one night after a little too much wine between my wife and his — the secrets started spilling before anyone could stop them.)

That discovery only brought us closer. We realized we were like-minded couples with similar interests, though we never played together — our relationship stayed friendly and supportive. We’d swap stories, share advice, and even help each other out; for example, we’d babysit their two boys whenever they had a “date night” planned.

But this post isn’t about our friendship — it’s about how they got started in the lifestyle. Their story is wild, and I’ve always found it fascinating. (Apologies in advance — I don’t have every detail since it’s not my journey, but they’ve shared enough for me to give you the gist.)

He had served ten years in the Army, and it was during that time that they first discovered the lifestyle. They were high school sweethearts who married young — right after graduation and just a few months before his first boot camp. A few years into his service, right before his first deployment, his supervisor began inviting them to house parties.

At first, everything seemed normal — just regular get-togethers with other married couples, which he thought was great. However, as everyone became more comfortable, the atmosphere relaxed. Before long, the parties included skinny-dipping and strip poker. It was during one of those nights that things escalated — he, his wife, and another man’s wife ended up having a threesome in an empty bedroom.

The next day, he completely freaked out when he realized whose wife they had hooked up with — it turned out to be one of his sergeants. His first thought was that this could cause serious drama, maybe even get him in trouble or lead to a fight. So, he went straight to his supervisor and confessed to what had happened. To his surprise, his supervisor brushed it off, told him not to worry, and assured him that no one was upset or looking to start any trouble over it.

Even with his supervisor’s reassurance, he still felt uneasy and decided it was best to stop going to the parties for a while. After noticing their absence, his supervisor eventually asked if everything was okay. He explained that things were fine, but he was still shaken up from that night — especially since he hadn’t said a word to his sergeant about what happened. He didn’t know whether his sergeant even knew or if he might be upset with him or his wife.

Once again, his supervisor told him not to worry and reassured him that everything was perfectly fine. That’s when his supervisor finally let him in on the truth — those parties were actually part of a private swingers circle, and what happened was completely normal and expected among that group.

Hearing that, he was shocked — and honestly, a bit frustrated that his supervisor hadn’t mentioned any of this back at the very first party.

The whole time, his wife was trying to calm him down and keep him from overreacting. She even admitted that the whole thing had been sparked by her — that it was her own temptation that pushed the situation forward, and she was the one who first started flirting with his sergeant’s wife.

After he told his wife what his supervisor had revealed about the swingers group, she felt both relieved and intrigued — and honestly, so did he. Before long, they found themselves back at the parties. The more they went, the spicier things got. They really started to enjoy themselves, letting loose and embracing the fun side of it all.

Fast forward to a few weeks before his deployment — his supervisor shared yet another secret. Since many of the husbands were about to leave for a long deployment, the parties would continue, but naturally with a few changes. The wives would be running things while their husbands were away.

His supervisor mentioned that his own wife would be helping organize the gatherings and told him that if his wife didn’t want to spend all her time alone, she could reach out to her. She could explain how things would work, answer any questions, and then the two of them could decide together if it was something they wanted to be part of.

After his wife got the details, they agreed that she would try out a party while he was gone.

After his wife got all the details, they agreed that she would attend one of the parties while he was away — just to see how it felt.

Before long, that one party turned into a regular thing, happening almost every month during his deployment. When he finally returned home, they picked up right where they had left off. The parties were still going strong, though now there were new couples in the mix — and, as always, a bit of that playful dance to see who might be open to taking things further.

They stayed involved with the group for a couple more years before he was reassigned to a new base. Unfortunately, there wasn’t a similar swinger circle there — or at least, not one they were ever invited to discover.